IF YOU HAVE THE FEAR OF MARRIAGE, DO THISππ½
If you are experiencing and hearing that voice that says, “What if mine ends in divorce?” “What if I marry wrong?” “What if I lose myself too in marriage?”
That fear of marriage that sneaks in like a quiet whisper in the night.
It’s not random. You do need to trace where it’s coming from. Because fear doesn’t just appear. It feeds on something.
1. Check the information you’re consuming.
Fear is often a product of the content we feed on.
Are you constantly watching “marriage is a sc@m” podcasts? Scrolling through bitter takes, broken love stories, and tox!c narratives?
If all you see is ch@os, your mind will believe love is ch@otic too. You must protect your heart by filtering your intake. What you feed on becomes what you fear or what you believe in.
2. Check what you actually know.
Fear is a message. It often says, “I don’t know enough to trust this process.”
If all you know is what you’ve seen from pain-filled homes, cheating partners, or emotionally unavailable spouses, you won’t believe something different is possible.
Ignorance breeds fear. But wisdom and knowledge births confidence. The Bible even said that knowledge can make you confident in a way that it puffs you up.
Learn. Ask questions. Understand what healthy marriage really looks like. Not fantasy. Not perfection. But truth. Reality. Purpose.
3. Check what you’re focusing on.
Where your focus goes, your emotions follow.
If you only see marriages that failed, of course your heart will panic.
But let me ask you this:
Are there no good marriages?
Are there no couples growing in love, building together, weathering storms and still choosing each other daily?
Shift your focus. Don’t let one heartbreak become the template for your future. How can you read a story and the first thing that comes out of your mouth is, “You sure say person go marry so?” “Marriage is becoming scary.”
4. Check your circle.
You can’t keep walking with people who speak d£ath over something you’re trying to build life in.
If everyone around you his marriage, mocks it, fears it, or has horrible experiences with it, guess what you’ll absorb?
Their fear will become your fear.
Their b!tterness, your defence mechanism.
Their disappointment, your expectation.
Sometimes, to heal your mindset, you need new voices. New stories. New examples.
So, surround yourself with people who love marriage not because it’s easy, but because they’ve chosen to grow through it.
Fear doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
It just means something needs to be addressed. Might be what you're hearing, what you're focusing on, or the people you hang around.
Don’t allow fear be in charge of your life. Let truth rewire your belief.
TAG someone you care about to see this. If this makes sense, you can SHARE it to help others having the fear of marriage.
- Nelson Asuen
IF YOU HAVE THE FEAR OF MARRIAGE, DO THISππ½
If you are experiencing and hearing that voice that says, “What if mine ends in divorce?” “What if I marry wrong?” “What if I lose myself too in marriage?”
That fear of marriage that sneaks in like a quiet whisper in the night.
It’s not random. You do need to trace where it’s coming from. Because fear doesn’t just appear. It feeds on something.
1. Check the information you’re consuming.
Fear is often a product of the content we feed on.
Are you constantly watching “marriage is a sc@m” podcasts? Scrolling through bitter takes, broken love stories, and tox!c narratives?
If all you see is ch@os, your mind will believe love is ch@otic too. You must protect your heart by filtering your intake. What you feed on becomes what you fear or what you believe in.
2. Check what you actually know.
Fear is a message. It often says, “I don’t know enough to trust this process.”
If all you know is what you’ve seen from pain-filled homes, cheating partners, or emotionally unavailable spouses, you won’t believe something different is possible.
Ignorance breeds fear. But wisdom and knowledge births confidence. The Bible even said that knowledge can make you confident in a way that it puffs you up.
Learn. Ask questions. Understand what healthy marriage really looks like. Not fantasy. Not perfection. But truth. Reality. Purpose.
3. Check what you’re focusing on.
Where your focus goes, your emotions follow.
If you only see marriages that failed, of course your heart will panic.
But let me ask you this:
Are there no good marriages?
Are there no couples growing in love, building together, weathering storms and still choosing each other daily?
Shift your focus. Don’t let one heartbreak become the template for your future. How can you read a story and the first thing that comes out of your mouth is, “You sure say person go marry so?” “Marriage is becoming scary.”
4. Check your circle.
You can’t keep walking with people who speak d£ath over something you’re trying to build life in.
If everyone around you his marriage, mocks it, fears it, or has horrible experiences with it, guess what you’ll absorb?
Their fear will become your fear.
Their b!tterness, your defence mechanism.
Their disappointment, your expectation.
Sometimes, to heal your mindset, you need new voices. New stories. New examples.
So, surround yourself with people who love marriage not because it’s easy, but because they’ve chosen to grow through it.
Fear doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
It just means something needs to be addressed. Might be what you're hearing, what you're focusing on, or the people you hang around.
Don’t allow fear be in charge of your life. Let truth rewire your belief.
TAG someone you care about to see this. If this makes sense, you can SHARE it to help others having the fear of marriage.
- Nelson Asuen
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