*𝗟𝗔𝗗𝗜𝗘𝗦: 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗙𝗜𝗚𝗨𝗥𝗘 𝟴 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗦𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗟𝗗 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 𝗕𝗘𝗙𝗢𝗥𝗘 𝗪𝗘𝗗𝗗𝗜𝗡𝗚.

I see the rush to buy girdles, tummy belts, waist trainers, and cinchers. I see the portion control and flat tummy exercises that you all do.

Some even go the extra mile to buy buttocks enlargement creams, firm bre.asts creams or oils, flat tummy herbs or teas, and join weight loss training sessions. They have to look smart, sweet, curvy and peng for the wedding.

Sisters, I hail thee! You are all doing well.

While these are good Sis, the real figure 8 you should be after, to hold that man tight after the wedding, are enumerated below.

1. 𝗔 𝗦𝗠𝗢𝗢𝗧𝗛 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗦𝗢𝗟𝗜𝗗 𝗥𝗘𝗟𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗣 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛 𝗚𝗢𝗗
Oh! I can't overemphasize how important it is to have a personal relationship with Abba. It's highly important that you know God and He knows you.

You need Him every step of the way! How will you know who to marry if God is not involved? Listen, you don't need anyone to choose your husband for you when you can hear God by yourself! God speaks to His children. Only a bas.tard will not know her father's voice.

There might be situations that will surpass what you can handle, you need God to teach you what to do. You see these Adams, they can be difficult to please at times. You need divine help to relate with them. You need God to teach you the real meaning of 'SUBMISSION' in marriage.

2. 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 𝗔 𝗚𝗢𝗢𝗗 𝗦𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗖𝗘(𝗦) 𝗢𝗙 𝗜𝗡𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗘
Sis, I know you are not interested in doing 'Suurulere' but you want 'Olorunshogo.' Apologies to my non-Yoruba speakers. What I mean is, you don't want to 'suf.fer' with any man before he makes it. You want a 'readymade' man. Are you aware that men now want 'readymade' sisters too? Oh! You weren't informed? Continue...

You need to be able to contribute your own quota to the running of the family sis. There's nothing bad if you see what you know the family needs and buy it with your own money. If you are waiting for a man to do everything in the family, and you have no financial contributions, things might flop.

Don't be a leech, a parasite, a burden, and a liability to your husband. Men want women who are assets to them. Let the man feel lucky to have you in his life. Let the relationship be symbiotic. Let it benefit both of you as you both contribute to the effective running of the home.

3. 𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗡 𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗧𝗢 𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗧 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗦𝗨𝗕𝗠𝗜𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗔 𝗠𝗔𝗡
You're doing portion control without doing tongue control. Sis, odikwa risky! Many of my sisters are garrulous. They lack self-control and can't control their tongues. I have seen some talk to their husbands and my shock was shocked!

Like, who raised these sisters? Sarah called Abraham Lord. But here you are calling your husbands 'mumu', 'fo.ol', 'm.ad', and every unprintable name. Learn how to address your husband and accord him the honour due him as your head. Remember, he is your earthly 'Lord'.

The most important need of a man is 𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗣𝗘𝗖𝗧! If you can't respect him, you have no business marrying him! Don't treat or talk to him like your errand boy. If not for marriage, some of you wouldn't have been able to come close to these men at all.

If you respect him, you will find it easy to submit to his lordship in the family.

4. 𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗡 𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗧𝗢 𝗖𝗢𝗢𝗞
The way to a man's heart is 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 food. Emphasis on good. Don't enter a marriage without knowing how to cook. Learn how to make different delicious cuisines.

These Adams don't joke with their tummies. They can give you anything you ask for, as long as they have eaten good food and are satisfied. Even children love good meals too. And you, my dearest sister, deserve good meals as well.

Cook varieties of food, and soups and learn how to make simple pastries. It's not every time "Honey, let's order takeouts." Men love it when their wives make various delicacies. They look forward to your meals each them. Don't push him to eateries of bukaterias where he might bump into all these 'tooth-pick-legged' girls.

Thanks to YouTube, you can learn to cook anything and everything. Practice these dishes on your own before marriage. Don't go and disgrace us in his house by adding sugar to the soup. Don't go and soak garri in water to make eba. Na beg I dey beg o.

5. 𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗡 𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝗧𝗢 𝗣𝗔𝗖𝗞𝗔𝗚𝗘 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙
Chai! The way some Eves disgrace us with their mode of dressings ehn! You see them afar off and shout "Blood of Zebudaiah!" They look like 'mgbeke feeling funky' in their rainbow-coloured attires.

Sis, let me give you a free cheat code. Don't worry, you can thank me later.

Men love women who:
√ know how to dress up and look good. They will be proud to introduce you to everyone, "Meet my beautiful wife!"
✓ know what clothes fit their body types. So, study your body type and buy or sew clothes that fit your body type.
✓ know what colours of accessories to pair with their outfits. Your clothes, shoes, bags, and wristwatches must agree in colour. No go do a rainbow combination for there o.
✓ know the hairstyles that fit them. Not every time he sees you, it's always shuku in the garden you're wearing.
✓ know what body sprays and perfumes smell nice on them
✓ who are well organized and neat! Not every morning "Honey did you see my bra?" Bia, are you wearing the bra together? Get an organizer. Arrange your underwear neatly.

Sis, package yourself well and ensure you are never caught 'unfresh.'

6. 𝗔𝗖𝗤𝗨𝗜𝗥𝗘 𝗛𝗢𝗠𝗘 𝗠𝗔𝗞𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗦𝗞𝗜𝗟𝗟𝗦
Sis, you want to get married but you can't lay the bedsheets on your bed every morning after waking up. I laugh in Turkish. Learn how to make your bed well. And learn how to wash and change the sheet regularly. Some white sheets have turned brown.

You don't know how to sweep neatly. Whenever you sweep it's always as if ants had their rehearsals in that spot, Kai! Who do you this thing?

Learn how to clean the top of your gas after each use. You see this one, many people are on this table. I'm gonna break the legs of this table! Some gas tops are worse than community dustbins. And you cook there every time. Please stopeeet!

Ehn, I almost forgot to add this. Eat and wash your plates immediately. Mbanu! Don't pile up plates. If you visit some people, you can find dirty plates of 2022 under their beds.

Sis, you see, I really want you to enjoy your home. These Adams can be so loving ehn, but if you don't meet their expectations in a wife, you won't like what they would do or say.

Be domesticated! I can't over-emphasize this.

7. 𝗗𝗜𝗦𝗖𝗢𝗩𝗘𝗥 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗧𝗔𝗟𝗘𝗡𝗧𝗦 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝗣𝗢𝗧𝗘𝗡𝗧𝗜𝗔𝗟𝗦
Know what you want out of life. Marriage is just one out of the very many things you are meant to achieve in life. You're more than a cook, a laundry woman, a baby-making machine, and a sex machine.

There are other aspects of life that you need to explore. What are your goals, vision, mission, aspirations, ambitions, and purpose for existence? I suggest you read the 'Purpose Driven Life' by Rick Warren. You need to get clarity about the 'why' of your existence.

Sis, you were made for MORE!

Take a lot at the features of the woman's body, in comparison to that of the man. You can see that we are indeed 'more.' God expects us to live to the fullest.

Your marriage should not hinder you from achieving greatness. Rather, it should facilitate it and act as a catalyst to you becoming that 'dream woman'. The 'dream woman' can become a reality!

8. 𝗟𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗡 𝗔𝗕𝗢𝗨𝗧 𝗦𝗘𝗫
Some sisters don't even know how they look 'under' there. They just know that God gave them a 'V.G.' and they're carrying it about. They don't know the different parts of it and their functions.

Sis, it's your property. Get a mirror and study it o. Then, read about each part to know its functions.

Read Christian literatures on s.e.x and se.xu.ality. Read books on the right food to eat to stimulate your sex organs. Reading about s.e.x is not a sin o, it is doing it before marriage that is a sin.

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