Women are messing with the good guys these days.
(And I do not like that)
Modern men are being taught to be soft.
To “talk about your feelings.”
To “be vulnerable.”
To “prove you’re not toxxic.”
But who’s benefitting from that
Not you.
Because while you're busy trying to be a “safe space”...
She’s admiring the man who makes her knees shake, not her voice heard.
Let’s unpack it.
1. Soft Boy Is Not Safe Man. It Means Replaceable.
You think being overly available, constantly texting, and never disagreeing makes you different
No, king.
It makes you boring.
She says she wants peace…
But watch her body react to chaos.
She says “I want a gentle man.”
But cries over the one who ignores her messages and still owns her mind.
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2. You’re Not Her Lover. You’re Her Emotional Dumping Ground.
You became her diary.
Her therapist.
Her motivational speaker.
But did she ever admire you
Did she ever crave you
Did she ever submit to your masculine leadership
Or did she just drain you…
…and go back to the guy who barely knows her birthday
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3. You Let Her Lead—Now She’s Lost Respect.
You asked:
* “Babe, what do you want me to do”
* “Where do you want to go”
* “What should we do next”
You thought you were being respectful.
She saw a man with no direction.
Masculinity isn't dictatorship.
But it does require decisiveness.
You don’t have to dominate her.
But if you can’t lead, she’ll find a man who can.
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4.You Think You're "Healing." She's Already Dating Again.
You’re in the gym, journaling, “doing the inner work.”
She’s in a new man’s kitchen… in your old hoodie.
You’re writing closure letters.
She’s opening her legś.
You’re listening to podcasts on “how to be better.”
She’s posting soft life reels with a new man who doesn’t even try half as hard as you.
Let that sting a bit. Then wake up.
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5. You’re Too Accessible. There’s No Mystery, No Edge.
You reply in 0.5 seconds.
You overshare everything.
You cry on the first date.
She didn’t want a baby. She wanted a man.
Yes, emotions matter.
But when they control you, you become the weakër vessel.
And no matter what anyone says—
Women don’t trust wëak men. Even if they pity them.
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6. Politeness Won’t Protect You From Rejection.
You think “being nice” will make her choose you.
Let me tell you something brutal:
She doesn’t choose safe.
She chooses strong.
And “strong” isn’t loud or aggrëssivë.
It’s calm. Certain. Clear.
You know who you are. You lead with purpose.
You don’t beg for love. You command respect.
-
Real men are being invisible due to these modern men nansense.
You don’t have to be cold.
But you do have to be in control of yourself.
Because if you don’t own your masculinity…
The world—and women—will walk all over you.
Maybe Solomon Buchi will tell us if I am wrong.
~ Yvonne Funmi
A photo of Yvone Funmi below.
Women are messing with the good guys these days.
(And I do not like that)
Modern men are being taught to be soft.
To “talk about your feelings.”
To “be vulnerable.”
To “prove you’re not toxxic.”
But who’s benefitting from that🥱
Not you.
Because while you're busy trying to be a “safe space”...
She’s admiring the man who makes her knees shake, not her voice heard.
Let’s unpack it.
1. Soft Boy Is Not Safe Man. It Means Replaceable.
You think being overly available, constantly texting, and never disagreeing makes you different
No, king.
It makes you boring.
She says she wants peace…
But watch her body react to chaos.
She says “I want a gentle man.”
But cries over the one who ignores her messages and still owns her mind.
-
2. You’re Not Her Lover. You’re Her Emotional Dumping Ground.
You became her diary.
Her therapist.
Her motivational speaker.
But did she ever admire you
Did she ever crave you
Did she ever submit to your masculine leadership
Or did she just drain you…
…and go back to the guy who barely knows her birthday
-
3. You Let Her Lead—Now She’s Lost Respect.
You asked:
* “Babe, what do you want me to do”
* “Where do you want to go”
* “What should we do next”
You thought you were being respectful.
She saw a man with no direction.
Masculinity isn't dictatorship.
But it does require decisiveness.
You don’t have to dominate her.
But if you can’t lead, she’ll find a man who can.
-
4.You Think You're "Healing." She's Already Dating Again.
You’re in the gym, journaling, “doing the inner work.”
She’s in a new man’s kitchen… in your old hoodie.
You’re writing closure letters.
She’s opening her legś.
You’re listening to podcasts on “how to be better.”
She’s posting soft life reels with a new man who doesn’t even try half as hard as you.
Let that sting a bit. Then wake up.
-
5. You’re Too Accessible. There’s No Mystery, No Edge.
You reply in 0.5 seconds.
You overshare everything.
You cry on the first date.
She didn’t want a baby. She wanted a man.
Yes, emotions matter.
But when they control you, you become the weakër vessel.
And no matter what anyone says—
Women don’t trust wëak men. Even if they pity them.
-
6. Politeness Won’t Protect You From Rejection.
You think “being nice” will make her choose you.
Let me tell you something brutal:
She doesn’t choose safe.
She chooses strong.
And “strong” isn’t loud or aggrëssivë.
It’s calm. Certain. Clear.
You know who you are. You lead with purpose.
You don’t beg for love. You command respect.
-
Real men are being invisible due to these modern men nansense. 😂
You don’t have to be cold.
But you do have to be in control of yourself.
Because if you don’t own your masculinity…
The world—and women—will walk all over you.
Maybe Solomon Buchi will tell us if I am wrong.
~ Yvonne Funmi
A photo of Yvone Funmi below.
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