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"So, there's this neighbor of mine, a single mom of a little boy of 4 years. She moved in about 2 months ago when our former tenant moved out.
A very tall, slim, brown-skinned girl, very beautiful. But Most times, I sit & wonder why I haven't seen her with a man since she moved in, which has made me conclude that she's single. Which is exactly the problem I'm having with this lady - I see her more like a threat to my loving marriage.
I'm a housewife & currently a breastfeeding mother. My husband & i been married for 9 yrs now. We have 4 beautiful daughters, aged 8, 6, 4, and 6 months old. Even though my husband loves his girls so much, but deep down, I feel like he wants a son & regrets having only girls. Coz most often, I see the way he plays with our neighbor's 4-year-old son, & honestly it annoys me.
I've never seen my husband so happy & excited when playing with our daughters, especially the way he looks when playing football in the compound with the little boy. My husband also started a new habit of buying gifts alongside the boy's when buying for my daughters. At times, he'll even carry the boy along with my daughters to drop them off for school on his way to work.
I feel like there's more to it than us just being neighbors. Come to think of it, why would a woman of about 30 with a good job still be single? I got married at just 23, but at her age, she's already too old for marriage, yet she's still single, doing nothing about it, & worse, not even seeming worried. Is this normal!?
This makes me feel like there's something going on between her & my man, though I haven't caught them yet. But I feel uncomfortable with her presence in the compound. All these have made me generate so much hatred for her 4-year-old son.
Can you imagine, she wanted to get a driver for her son since she's often busy at work, but my husband refused & asked her not to bother. He offered to help her always pick up the boy together with our children from school since they attend the same school, coincidentally, it's also the time he closes from work.
Most times, the boy has to stay at my place while waiting for her mom to return, as she always does about an hour after my husband brings them home. So each time, I give my children food, when they return from school. I sit back & watch how the boy is swallowing saliva looking hungry & watching them eat. I always warn my kids not to share anything with him. And any of them who tries it always gets flogged, so now they're used to it & have learned not to share anything with the little boy.
The other day, my husband noticed the boy hadn't eaten & asked me why I hadn't given him food. I told him I didn't have enough food to fit an extra mouth, & he got angry, took the boy out, & bought him food. We even had issues over the matter, & my own husband started giving me the silent treatment for almost 2 days because of the same little boy. Even though I apologized, it also made me develop even more hatred for the boy. Because he has started causing problems in my marriage already barley 2 months in the compound.
Now, even when I give him food, I make sure that I mix it with my 6-month-old daughter's pøøp & watch him eat. This is the only way that I feel relieved & calm when he's eating food that I've sweated in the kitchen to prepare. All 3 of our other tenants are married, except for the single mom who moved in only with her 4-year-old son. I'm disturbed, & I'm no longer happy in my home. Any woman in my shoes will feel the same way..
For the past 9 years since we got married, my husband has been a sweet, loving, & gentle man. He takes good care of me & my family & even sponsors 3 of my siblings to school. i just can't afford to loose him. Honestly, i never knew a time would come when I'll be feeling this worried over the stability of my marriage"
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As a young man who is ambitious, and wants the best for himself, stay away from jobless women....
Because they've got nothing in it ✌️
_ George Avwerosuo

SECRETS TO HAVING A STRONG RELATIONSHIP

Everyone dreams of having the happiest marriage. You want someone who’s going to love you no matter what, you want a person to have fun with and most importantly, you want someone you can share a happy, fulfilling life with.
If you desire a loving and lasting relationship with your spouse, both of you need to adopt the following habits below:

1. INVEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Reading books on marriage, conflict resolution, and communication techniques will help your marriage. The more you invest in your marriage, the more valuable it becomes. Most importantly, Treat your spouse better than you treat anyone else.

2. COMMUNICATION
Believe it or not, communication is the key to a happy marriage. Never stop communicating. Stay on the same page. Make sure your spouse always knows how you feel. Keeping open communication is arguably the best thing you can do for your marriage.
Make sure that you always communicate clearly about what you want and expect. Remember that good communication is what makes a marriage successful.

3. DON'T GIVE UP:
On your wedding day, you make promises to love your sweetheart forever through the good and bad times. But sometimes the bad outweighs the good by a lot, and marriages end up falling apart. But there are things you can do to make your happy marriage last forever. Be committed to make your marriage work. Don't think the grass is always greener on the other side. Most people who leave their marriages for someone else find the same problems in the new relationship, and many regret not having worked things out in their first marriage. Any married person will tell you that marriages wax and wane. There are good times, bad times, and so-so times. A marriage is viable if the good outweighs the bad, even by a little bit. The more you appreciate the good and try to let the bad roll off, the easier it will get, and the more fondness and connection you will feel towards your spouse.

4. LEARN TO LISTEN
Speaking less and listening more is important if you want to build a strong relationship with your partner. It’s important you always pay close attention to what your partner has to say. Ask your partner how his/her day went and listen to him/her talk about their day.

5. KEEP YOUR PRIVATE LIFE PRIVATE
When you put your relationship on social media, you invite the public to your relationship. Keep your private matters private. It’s a relationship between you and your partner and not between you, your partner and the public. You can share your fun dates with your partner or some nice photos together on your Facebook or Instagram app but make sure you draw the line where necessary.

6. KNOW WHEN TO LET THINGS SLIDE AND LEARN HOW TO MANAGE CONFLICTS
Finding ways to reduce the frequency of conflict in your relationship by letting go of the little things will help you build a strong relationship with your partner. Arguments are normal in a relationship but you should make sure you never insult your partner during an argument. Always listen to what your partner has to say during an argument.

7. COMMITMENT:
Commitment is very important if you desire to have a strong relationship with your partner. You have to decide to stick with your partner and make the relationship work irrespective of the flaws your partner might have. Couples who renew their commitments every day, in words and deed, are on their way to having a strong relationship.

8. MAKE TIME TO DATE
Spending quality time with your partner is important if you desire to build a strong relationship. Nothing substitutes for time together. No matter how busy you are, always create time to go out on dates with your partner.

9. BE TOTALLY TRANSPARENT
Partners in strong relationships have no secrets. If you desire to build a strong relationship with your partner, you have to be completely transparent with your partner. You don’t need privacy in your relationship if you want a strong relationship.

10. TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER
Whether it be something as simple as watching a movie neither of you has seen, or something as extreme as skydiving, trying new things together as a couple is important if you want to have a strong relationship. Trying new things together keeps the excitement and passion going in your relationship.

The Impact of Nollywood Dramas on Today’s Society

There was a time when watching Nollywood dramas was an event in itself. Back then, we gathered in groups, rented movies in parts—Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, sometimes even up to Part 7! Despite the constant battle with NEPA’s unavailability of electricity, we found ways to stay up late into the night, captivated by the gripping stories unfolding on our screens.

These films brought entertainment, suspense, and unforgettable characters. But they also carried something deeper—subtle and sometimes dangerous messages that have, over the years, left a lasting impact on society, especially the youth of today.

From Entertainment to a Dangerous Mindset

In those days, some of the most popular Nollywood storylines revolved around money rituals. Many of us can still remember vividly—scenes of desperate young men visiting herbalists, sacrificing human lives, and then emerging as wealthy businessmen overnight. The actors who played these roles—many of whom are now famous—were so convincing that, for some viewers, fiction blurred into reality.

While Nollywood filmmakers may have intended these movies as cautionary tales, the repeated depiction of ritual killings as a shortcut to wealth seems to have had the opposite effect. Instead of serving as warnings, they planted dangerous ideas in the minds of many young people.

Today, we are living with the consequences.

A Generation That No Longer Believes in Hard Work

I recall a disturbing moment from my school days. I was in my hostel when a fellow student boldly declared, "There’s no legitimate way to make money!" He went on to say, "I go do rituals," as if it were just another career choice. This was a young man, full of potential, already convinced that success could only come through dark and illegal means.

His mindset wasn’t formed overnight. It was shaped by years of watching and hearing the same narrative—money rituals work, and the wealthy must have used them. How did we get here? When did we stop believing in education, skills, and entrepreneurship?

The Role of Nollywood and Social Media

If television had such a powerful influence on past generations, imagine what social media is doing to today's youth. Unlike back then, when we only had movies on VHS or CDs, now, social media bombards young people with content 24/7. And the glorification of quick money, fraudulent lifestyles, and rituals has only worsened.

Many young people no longer aspire to be doctors, engineers, or business owners. Instead, they want to be “big boys” overnight, no matter the cost. And who do they look up to? The influencers flaunting suspicious wealth, the artists singing about blood money, and even movies that still glorify the same themes from the past.

What Can Be Done?

The government must take a stand. Just as traditional media was once regulated, social media must now be monitored to prevent the spread of harmful content.

Nollywood must take responsibility: Filmmakers need to tell stories that promote hard work, innovation, and legitimate success rather than reinforcing the idea that money rituals are the fastest route to wealth.

Social media regulation: Not censorship, but content control to prevent the glorification of fraud and ritual killings.

Educating the youth: Schools and families must play their part in reshaping the narrative. We must teach young people that success comes from persistence, education, and genuine effort—not blood money.


Conclusion

Nollywood has entertained us for decades, but it has also shaped mindsets in ways we never imagined. Now, social media is amplifying those messages even further. If we do nothing, future generations will grow up in a society where hard work is a joke and crime is a normal part of life.

It’s time to change the narrative. It’s time to show that wealth built on sweat and integrity is the only wealth that truly lasts.

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Apologizing doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you value your relationship more than your ego. It takes strength to admit when you’re wrong, to acknowledge your mistakes, and to take responsibility for the hurt you may have caused. Pride may tell you to stay silent, to wait for the other person to make the first move, but love and wisdom teach that healing begins with humility.

A sincere apology has the power to mend broken trust, ease tension, and bring people closer. It’s not just about saying “I’m sorry” but also about showing through actions that you truly regret your mistake and are willing to change. Holding on to grudges, refusing to apologize, or letting ego take control can damage even the strongest relationships.

In marriage, friendships, and family, the ability to apologize and forgive is essential. No one is perfect, and disagreements will happen, but what matters most is how we handle them. A moment of pride can cost years of happiness, while a moment of humility can restore love and peace.

The strongest relationships aren’t the ones without conflict, but the ones where both people are willing to work through their mistakes with understanding, patience, and respect. Apologizing doesn’t make you lose—it allows love, trust, and connection to win.

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